Having a partner can be an exciting and important time in your life. If your relationship with your partner is a HEALTHY one, you and your partner will feel good about yourselves and value each other. However, sometimes relationships can be HURTFUL and have your negative effect on your feelings of self-worth and self-confidence. This can happen if your partner is abusive towards you. If this is the case, you are in an UNHEALTHY relationship. Remember, being on your own is also a healthy way to be. Having a partner is not a necessary part of life. Discovering life for yourself can be exciting and rewarding.
What is Abuse?
Abuse is being hit, slapped, or pushed around. It can also be invisible and leave no marks. Emotional and verbal abuse can be terrifying and equally as dangerous. There are many forms of abuse, all rooted in Power & Control over another person. Financial abuse is another way an abuser can maintain control over a person.
Does your relationship include abuse?
You may feel that it’s your fault if things aren’t working out. Sometimes living with the abuse seems better than being alone. You may hope that your partner will change and the abuse will stop – chances are, things will get worse! This happens to many people – you are not alone and IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT! Remember, all forms of abuse are attempts to control. TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE, BE YOURSELF, TAKE CHARGE!
Adapted, with permission, from "Are You Cool" Brochure published by the YWCA